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My wife and I are big time gamers. We actually met on a game before actually meeting irl (yes we are one of those rare success stories of online dating actually working, even though we weren't even looking at the time for anything). I'm not sure if this has been a topic before, so forgive me if I didn't dig deep enough. I'm just curious as to how many couples are planning on playing ESO together. What do you plan on doing in game? Any other gamer success stories? They say gamers should only marry other gamers, and I definitely believe that to be true. If my wife weren't into games as much as I am, we would clash a lot. Like, a LOT. Let's hear it!


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My husband and I met online (Though not in a game and we happened to live near each other) in 2004, we have been partners in crime while gaming ever since! This year we will be together for 9 years and married for 6.

Most here know, but for those that don't @Tarantadu is my husband. We spent most of our online gaming years together playing FFXI Online. We've played others together for as well, but not as long (Aion, Diablo 3, Tera).


I wouldn't have it any other way. I have my best friend, husband and game buddy with me at all times!
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I am what you would call a perpetual bachelor. There is no chance in hell for me besides bought and paid for women.

Reading your post though @Zim reminded me of something. I was once talking to a chick who was dating my friend. She was over and I popped in the shitty SUPER MARIOS BROS live action movie. I asked if she had seen it and she said... "whats Super Mario Brothers?"..

WTF!!!! Its fine if a chick never played the games, but having never heard of it? No way, gamer couples for life.


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(May 14th 2013, 09:42 PM)Zim Wrote: I'm just curious as to how many couples are planning on playing ESO together. What do you plan on doing in game?

Well, I plan to snipe @Tecca 's ass, so there's your plan :D

Seriously though, I know what you're saying. I doubt I could ever be with somebody who's not at least a little bit of a nerd. Gaming with your significant other is such, such fun. I guess it can also bring some tension from time to time ("Oh my GOD babe, didn't you see I was dying!? What the hell!"), but in the end it's still all fun and games (hah-hah).

I don't think a non-nerd would ever want to be with me. I've said no to clubbing with friends in the past because I had a raid <.< It's not that bad anymore nowadays, but still xD A non-gamer and a gamer being together usually ends up in a lot of arguements. It's good to have it in common. And as Najla said - it's great to have your partner, best friend and fellow partner in crime and nerding all in one ;)




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I have to agree with everything said here. No non-nerd would understand us at all. My wife and I definitely have those moments where t's like "Come on babe, pay attention!" But again at the end of the day it is just a game. I love it. We bond so much over games and it's just one of those things that when it works it works. I couldn't see myself with anyone else. But then again, I knew she was the one I was going to marry anyway as soon as I found out she had the original Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles on DVD. You don't let a woman like that go.


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(May 15th 2013, 08:49 AM)Zim Wrote: But then again, I knew she was the one I was going to marry anyway as soon as I found out she had the original Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles on DVD. You don't let a woman like that go.

Haha! All the signs were there, huh? I know what you mean though - @Tecca was there for me at 4 AM when I had just lost three levels on Skyrim because of a save screw-up, and comforted me until he knew I was all right.

THIS STUFF IS IMPORTANT.
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(May 15th 2013, 08:59 AM)Triskele Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 08:49 AM)Zim Wrote: But then again, I knew she was the one I was going to marry anyway as soon as I found out she had the original Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles on DVD. You don't let a woman like that go.

Haha! All the signs were there, huh? I know what you mean though - @Tecca was there for me at 4 AM when I had just lost three levels on Skyrim because of a save screw-up, and comforted me until he knew I was all right.

THIS STUFF IS IMPORTANT.

LOL it IS IMPORTANT! And it's important to have someone that understands. Some ppl have the gym, some have photography, some have whatever. We have our games and we need someone who understands that it's just as important to us as any other hobby someone could have.


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(May 14th 2013, 09:42 PM)Zim Wrote: They say gamers should only marry other gamers, and I definitely believe that to be true. If my wife weren't into games as much as I am, we would clash a lot. Like, a LOT. Let's hear it!

(May 15th 2013, 03:15 AM)Triskele Wrote: I don't think a non-nerd would ever want to be with me. I've said no to clubbing with friends in the past because I had a raid <.< It's not that bad anymore nowadays, but still xD A non-gamer and a gamer being together usually ends up in a lot of arguements. It's good to have it in common. And as Najla said - it's great to have your partner, best friend and fellow partner in crime and nerding all in one ;)

I think we're generalizing a bit too much here. There are plenty of people that marry a non-gamer and have great relationships. Most people that I've dated didn't even know I played video games and we got along just fine. To me, it's mostly an added bonus that the other is a gamer, not a necessity.

In bold: Oh god, stop being so humble, Tris. You know 100% that isn't true.

(May 15th 2013, 09:11 AM)Zim Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 08:59 AM)Triskele Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 08:49 AM)Zim Wrote: But then again, I knew she was the one I was going to marry anyway as soon as I found out she had the original Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles on DVD. You don't let a woman like that go.

Haha! All the signs were there, huh? I know what you mean though - @Tecca was there for me at 4 AM when I had just lost three levels on Skyrim because of a save screw-up, and comforted me until he knew I was all right.

THIS STUFF IS IMPORTANT.

LOL it IS IMPORTANT! And it's important to have someone that understands. Some ppl have the gym, some have photography, some have whatever. We have our games and we need someone who understands that it's just as important to us as any other hobby someone could have.

It's definitely important to understand that it's a hobby like any other, yeah. I completely agree. A person that doesn't game can probably understand that, though. If a gamer ends up with someone that doesn't, then yes, that's definitely when they're going to clash.
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(May 15th 2013, 09:25 AM)Tecca Wrote:
(May 14th 2013, 09:42 PM)Zim Wrote: They say gamers should only marry other gamers, and I definitely believe that to be true. If my wife weren't into games as much as I am, we would clash a lot. Like, a LOT. Let's hear it!

(May 15th 2013, 03:15 AM)Triskele Wrote: I don't think a non-nerd would ever want to be with me. I've said no to clubbing with friends in the past because I had a raid <.< It's not that bad anymore nowadays, but still xD A non-gamer and a gamer being together usually ends up in a lot of arguements. It's good to have it in common. And as Najla said - it's great to have your partner, best friend and fellow partner in crime and nerding all in one ;)

I think we're generalizing a bit too much here. There are plenty of people that marry a non-gamer and have great relationships. Most people that I've dated didn't even know I played video games and we got along just fine. To me, it's mostly an added bonus that the other is a gamer, not a necessity.

In bold: Oh god, stop being so humble, Tris. You know 100% that isn't true.

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(May 15th 2013, 08:59 AM)Triskele Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 08:49 AM)Zim Wrote: But then again, I knew she was the one I was going to marry anyway as soon as I found out she had the original Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles on DVD. You don't let a woman like that go.

Haha! All the signs were there, huh? I know what you mean though - @Tecca was there for me at 4 AM when I had just lost three levels on Skyrim because of a save screw-up, and comforted me until he knew I was all right.

THIS STUFF IS IMPORTANT.

LOL it IS IMPORTANT! And it's important to have someone that understands. Some ppl have the gym, some have photography, some have whatever. We have our games and we need someone who understands that it's just as important to us as any other hobby someone could have.

It's definitely important to understand that it's a hobby like any other, yeah. I completely agree. A person that doesn't game can probably understand that, though. If a gamer ends up with someone that doesn't, then yes, that's definitely when they're going to clash.

In regards to where you said that some people you dated didn't know you gamed and you got along just fine, let me ask you this: Do you find it easier to be with someone who shares the same hobby as you, given the fact they understand? Or no bonus at all? I completely agree that the two people of "opposing factions" of gaming/not gaming can get along just fine. But is it easier and a lot less stressful if they both enjoy that same hobby? In my opinion, definitely.


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(May 15th 2013, 09:36 AM)Zim Wrote: In regards to where you said that some people you dated didn't know you gamed and you got along just fine, let me ask you this: Do you find it easier to be with someone who shares the same hobby as you, given the fact they understand? Or no bonus at all? I completely agree that the two people of "opposing factions" of gaming/not gaming can get along just fine. But is it easier and a lot less stressful if they both enjoy that same hobby? In my opinion, definitely.

It wasn't easier with the non-gamers, but that mostly came down to incompatibility in multiple areas (such as generally having too many differences when it came to important relationship decisions). With @Triskele we see eye-to-eye on most things, but I don't think it has much to do with her being a gamer. It's just about having that spark with the other person that you don't get with anyone else.


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(May 15th 2013, 03:15 AM)Triskele Wrote: Gaming with your significant other is such, such fun. I guess it can also bring some tension from time to time ("Oh my GOD babe, didn't you see I was dying!? What the hell!"), but in the end it's still all fun and games (hah-hah).

If you only know how interesting it could get when we play MMOs with other people, @Najla is known to be the genuinely nicest person while I make Satan look like a pansy. It's funny when grown men and women approach her to tell on me and how much I hurt their feelings. I think that's what keeps it fun and interesting, I wouldn't have it any other way.
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(May 15th 2013, 09:45 AM)Tarantadu Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 03:15 AM)Triskele Wrote: Gaming with your significant other is such, such fun. I guess it can also bring some tension from time to time ("Oh my GOD babe, didn't you see I was dying!? What the hell!"), but in the end it's still all fun and games (hah-hah).

If you only know how interesting it could get when we play MMOs with other people, @Najla is known to be the genuinely nicest person while I make Satan look like a pansy. It's funny when grown men and women approach her to tell on me and how much I hurt their feelings. I think that's what keeps it fun and interesting, I wouldn't have it any other way.

I've been a guild leader, an officer and most recently a raid leader. Even though I was the "leader" or what not, I wouldn't have been able to be half the leader I was without my wife. She told me when she thought was wrong, and defended/supported me when she felt I was right lol.


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@Tarantadu always puts be in a bad spot in leadership roles. He tends not to have a filter when dealing with people and they don't take that well. I often overcompensate on scolding him so people don't think I'm being lenient since he's my husband. I love him but even he can tell you he makes it difficult for me quite often when dealing with him in game!



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(May 15th 2013, 09:45 AM)Tecca Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 09:36 AM)Zim Wrote: In regards to where you said that some people you dated didn't know you gamed and you got along just fine, let me ask you this: Do you find it easier to be with someone who shares the same hobby as you, given the fact they understand? Or no bonus at all? I completely agree that the two people of "opposing factions" of gaming/not gaming can get along just fine. But is it easier and a lot less stressful if they both enjoy that same hobby? In my opinion, definitely.

It wasn't easier with the non-gamers, but that mostly came down to incompatibility in multiple areas (such as generally having too many differences when it came to important relationship decisions). With @Triskele we see eye-to-eye on most things, but I don't think it has much to do with her being a gamer. It's just about having that spark with the other person that you don't get with anyone else.

This! Smiling I've given up trying to get my girlfriend into gaming, but in every other field that matters we are so alike and seem to share opinions and thus very rarely disagree. In fact in our 4 or so years being together we've never had a single (proper) argument.

She accepts gaming is my hobby and that's all there is to it. I get no trouble or no grief as long 'real life' comes first. I couldn't ask for more.
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(May 15th 2013, 03:09 PM)Badwolf Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 09:45 AM)Tecca Wrote:
(May 15th 2013, 09:36 AM)Zim Wrote: In regards to where you said that some people you dated didn't know you gamed and you got along just fine, let me ask you this: Do you find it easier to be with someone who shares the same hobby as you, given the fact they understand? Or no bonus at all? I completely agree that the two people of "opposing factions" of gaming/not gaming can get along just fine. But is it easier and a lot less stressful if they both enjoy that same hobby? In my opinion, definitely.

It wasn't easier with the non-gamers, but that mostly came down to incompatibility in multiple areas (such as generally having too many differences when it came to important relationship decisions). With @Triskele we see eye-to-eye on most things, but I don't think it has much to do with her being a gamer. It's just about having that spark with the other person that you don't get with anyone else.

This! Smiling I've given up trying to get my girlfriend into gaming, but in every other field that matters we are so alike and seem to share opinions and thus very rarely disagree. In fact in our 4 or so years being together we've never had a single (proper) argument.

She accepts gaming is my hobby and that's all there is to it. I get no trouble or no grief as long 'real life' comes first. I couldn't ask for more.

Honestly, I prefer it when the women i date have different hobbies to me: mine are almost exclusively solitary and for me time, including gaming. When people join me it feels like an imposition. But then I'm generally antisocial and have a phobia of sharing. Yes, I am quite the catch.




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